‘Wood’ You Believe It …5 Years of Marriage!



On Saturday 28th August 2010 I exchanged beautiful wedding vows with Mr M the man who I  have chosen to spend the rest of my life with.

Wedding of Bella Patel to Mark Matten at Brooksby Hall, Brooksby, near Melton Mowbray, Leicestershire on 28th August 2010. Photograph by Martin Neeves Photography - www.martinneeves.com - Tel: 01455 271849 / 07973 638591 - E-mail: mail@martinneeves.com

Mr M has blown me away by flying me to Ibiza my favourite destination on Earth other than home to celebrate our nuptials! I do have my wonderful parents to thank for as they love spending time with Jay and can’t get enough of their only grandson so I know he’ll have a good week while his mummy hangs out with his daddy after what seems like a long time.  It does feel odd leaving Jay as I am always with him but I think it would be good for him too to have a mini break from his primary carer.


Mr M works long hours and lately it’s been a case of ships passing in the night but we always make time to share a joke with one another and laugh.  I am looking forward to catching up with my husband and who knows we might even head out to a club after all it would be rude not to when visiting the party Island of the World. I do love the music scene here and the atmosphere but it’s not all about the hedonistic crowds. We love taking a leisurely stroll around Ibiza Old town especially Dalt Vila the Unesco World heritage site which is pretty much the iconic symbol of Ibiza.


Tonight we have a dinner reservation at a restaurant called Sa Punta. I can’t wait as I’ve heard it’s a beautiful restaurant with stunning decor and views as well as good food.


1st Wedding Anniversary Ibiza

I’m pretty sure we will be reminiscing about our wonderful mini moon which also happened to be here on this magical Island and we even came back a year later to celebrate our very first wedding anniversary, so you get the picture I really enjoy being here as it holds special happy memories. I guess some destinations make a mark and My Mark is  someone I feel glad to have met and fallen in love with.


Have a wonderful weekend!

Mrs Matten


Wedding of Bella Patel to Mark Matten at Brooksby Hall, Brooksby, near Melton Mowbray, Leicestershire on 28th August 2010. Photograph by Martin Neeves Photography - www.martinneeves.com - Tel: 01455 271849 / 07973 638591 - E-mail: mail@martinneeves.com

One Little Bird


This is an incredibly special post writing about a 1st birthday party for a very much loved boy, the baby I thought I would never have.  I’ve never been to a 1st birthday party so I was incredibly excited seeing my home filled with lots and lots of decorations red and blue in colour, and thirty of our friends and family who all brought love and laughter celebrating our son Jay’s 1st year in the World. It was a beautiful glorious Spring day and it all went perfectly.


I designed the invites on Vistaprint

The day before his birthday I took 30 mins alone going through his baby photos and videos on my MacBook. He was so tiny when he arrived after what seemed like an eternity (labour 37 hours) 6 lbs 3oz 45cm long on 5th March 2014 17 days early.


On his birthday I had him weighed and considering the severe reflux we all had to endure for 10 months of his life which was incredibly hard to witness, I now have a toddler who is 21 lbs and 77cm long. He’s often mistaken for being a girl! I am envious of his long lashes but he’s a now a little man also half my size in height which makes me laugh but he has a long way to go to catch up with my Mr Tickle arms (Thanks for the compliment Mr M).


If you are a parent reading this just think about how far you’ve come with your beautiful baby watching him or her grow and with each month confidence builds but brings it’s only challenges.  I had no training whatsoever no babies in the family to hold or nappies to change but I now know there is nothing quite like it. I love being a mum exhausting as it is I am devoted to caring and loving this boy who has changed my life for the better and I take great pleasure in seeing Jay smiling, playing and laughing with friends and family.


I put together a little music compilation which included songs which mean something to Mark and I and somehow a couple of Iron Maiden tracks made it onto the playlist!

Beautiful Boy (John Lennon) | Happy (Pharrell Williams) | Baby Baby (Amy Grant) | Magic (Coldplay) | Song Bird (Eva Cassidy) | Beautiful Day (U2) | It Must Be Love (Madness) | Everywhere (Fleetwood Mac) | Waiting For A Star to Fall (Boy meets Girl)

I found some photos of my 1st birthday party and still have the music box that my parents kindly gave me as a gift. It still works thirty eight years on!


I’ve put together a time capsule for Jay to open on his 18th birthday in 2032 which includes messages from the party guests. I’ve read them and they are really wonderful. I will be including a newspaper from the day he was born and from 5th March 2015. I will also be including other items in there, even tempted to put in the top I was wearing when I gave birth but that might be an item too far!




The birthday cake I had made had a picture of a blue Jay bird and was deliciously made by London Cakes

I had party gift boxes to give to the children at home time which were all personalised for each child which for us was a nice way to end the afternoon. It still feels surreal knowing I have a one year old son. I am writing a letter to him to open when he is eighteen. Mark and I will be old enough to be his grandparents but for now he is keeping us young at heart!

If you are planning a 1st birthday party enjoy every moment and best wishes for a memorable day.

Thanks for reading!

Bella and the Birthday Boy


The Baby Shower- It’s Raining Friends!


A year ago Saturday 22nd February 2014 I had a beautiful baby shower thrown in my honour at my home by my wonderful childhood friend Nina and thankfully I was able to return the favour in May 2014.


I had just finished work the previous day to begin maternity leave and had no idea that ‘Quelle Surprise’ we would be meeting Jay a fortnight later!

I also had a surprise mini baby shower organised by my friends at work which was so special and it was at these events where I think it really hit me that I was going to have a baby! a little late you could say but it was true.


I adore an Afternoon Tea so it was fun incorporating it into the Tiny Feets theme at my baby shower and I loved having my friends and family with me celebrating the impending birth which will be forever etched in my mind.


If you are planning a pre baby party here are a few pointers

Oh how I love Pinterest ! why not create a board and look for inspiration.  Have a chat with the lovely mum 3-4 months before the due date and find out the date/time and location of the party.  It could be held at home or a restaurant or a community hall. She may prefer to have a spa day of course with the girls. There is nothing wrong with keeping it small and intimate.  Also worth checking if there will be a gift list that guests could contribute to if they wish.  Why not decide on a theme or keep it a surprise! for theme ideas scroll below.


Prepare a guest list writing down their addresses and numbers and send out the invitations. You may wish to email out the invitations if time is an issue, remember to include a RSVP date and check if there are any dietary requirements to consider.


No baby shower checklist is complete without something to eat and drink. I had a combination of home made delicious goodies made by my lovely host and shop bought party platters (Thank you Mr Waitrose). Don’t forget the drinks and Mocktails!

Order tableware it’s entirely up to you whether you wish to use glassware or plastic.

Think about ordering flowers, balloons, candles, and decorations for walls and where the decorations will go and how they will stick!

One of my favourite go to sites is  Mother & Baby they have a great list of baby games to play.

Remember you may want to buy prizes for the games and also favours for the goodie bags for the guests. You may want to think about a preparing music playlist.

On the day allow time to set up and welcome guests when they arrive and designate an area for coats and gifts.


Have a comfortable chair, with a pillow, for mummy to be to use at the shower, especially if she’s in her third trimester and remember to have fun!

There are loads of theme ideas at Pop Sugar

Welcome to the World



What could it Bee?


Western Theme


Vintage Baby Shower


Sweet Rubber Ducky


Sunny Breakfast 


Sprinkle Baby Shower


Sock Monkey Baby Shower


Ready to Pop!


Pink Ruffles and Ribbons


Old World Glam




Gold Pink Circus


Little Man Mustasche


High Tea


Exotic Morrocan Inspired


Space Invaders


Charming Childrens’ Books


Bun in the oven


Breezy Beachside


Airplane Theme


Western Theme


Velveteen Rabbit


Thai Theme


Sweet Lullaby


Sprinkle Baby Shower


Mod Gender Reveal Party


Little Pink Birdies


Lavender Theme


For those planning a baby shower it really is a wonderful occasion and I wish you a wonderful time. I would also love to hear about your Baby Shower please feel free to comment.

Thanks for reading!