Proceive the UK’s most advanced fertility supplement*

Trying for a baby? How can you give you and your partner the best chance to conceive. Taking the decision to start a family can be an exciting time for a couple but sadly infertility can cause an unsettling time due to problems either as a result of poor quality sperm or problems with ovulation. I know first hand how emotionally difficult it can be to face the roller coaster that is infertility. Fortunately my rainbow arrived in 2014 after a number of years battling the big “I” due to PCOS. I make no secret how challenging it is for those of you who have read my blog will know the struggles I faced. Of course there is no guarantee to most things in life but I am a strong believer in taking a preconception supplement to increase the chances of a successful pregnancy.

According to the NHS around 1 in 7 couples may have difficulty conceiving. This is approximately 3.5 million people in the UK. You’re more likely to get pregnant if you and your partner are both in good health. Making some changes to your lifestyle may improve your chances of getting pregnant and having a healthy pregnancy.  A new study has sparked fresh fears over the future of male fertility, as scientists find male sperm quality is falling. Fertility clinics found that the number of moving sperm found in men’s samples is dropping by as much as 1.8 per cent every year. Meanwhile, another study found that male fertility is declining in five out of six US cities, reports The Daily Mail.

It can be difficult to get all the nutrients you need from your diet in today’s busy world. Proceive is a range of scientifically formulated fertility supplements for men and women trying for a baby. Proceive is designed to support nutritional needs of the body. It provides the most comprehensive formulations including amino acids, vitamins and minerals. Proceive’s Health Nutritionist Gaye Godkin recommends couples trying to conceive make a  conscious decision to eat a healthy balance diet. The good news is Gaye suggests lots of tasty foods including dark chocolate (in moderation!), a great antioxidant.

Men have to produce between 40 and 300 million sperm cells to be fertile. This is an intensive process and the energy involved in creating these cells is significant.  Getting the environment right and developing good quality sperm cells are a key factor when trying for a baby. A deficiency in any nutrient may have an impact on male fertility.

The Proceive range consists of five fertility and preconception nutritional supplements:

Proceive Women is designed to support the female reproductive system and provide the
nutrients which are scientifically shown to help play a vital role in supporting the hormonal
system and the development of quality egg cells. RRP. £24.95.

Proceive Women Max contains 33 vitamins and minerals and is designed for women over
35 years of age or women over 18, who have been trying for a baby for 12 months or more.
RRP. £49.95

Proceive Dual Pack for him and her the PROCEIVE WOMEN’S pack and the PROCEIVE
MEN’S pack RRP £44.95.

Proceive Men is designed to help support the nutritional demands of the male reproductive
system. Key benefits of Proceive Men include healthy sperm support, energy support,
antioxidant supports and blood flow support. RRP. £24.95.

Proceive Men Max contains 33 vitamins and minerals for men and is designed for men over
40 or any men over 18 years of age who have been trying for a baby for 12 months or more.
RRP. £49.95

So if you are hoping to start a family of your own I wish you the best of luck and wish you a healthy, smooth pregnancy. A supplement like Proceive could make all the difference. Be sure to check with your GP should you wish to take it.

 

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Thanks for reading

Bella

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*I was sent the Proceive supplements range and all opinions are 100% my own.

#TeenTalk with Gabby Logan

I recently got the chance to ask celebrity mum Gabby Logan some questions about the #TeenTalk campaign with Boots and P&G which provides parents with the tips and tools to have the #TeenTalk with confidence. Gabby has been fronting TV sport for 20 years, covering major tournaments and the annual Sports Personality of the Year awards.  I have always admired her interviewing and presenting style and think she is a great ambassador for this campaign. Both of us are mums in our forties except Gabby has teenagers and I have a toddler, can I still call Jay a toddler? Along with her 13-year-old twins Lois and Reuben, she sees the importance of helping parents and their children navigate this new life stage with confidence, and how to tackle the difficulties parents & teens can face.

From my own personal experience I never had the puberty conversation with my Indian parents. This doesn’t upset me as I understand it isn’t the easiest of topics to talk about plus I am from a generation where parents perhaps didn’t feel comfortable talking to their children about the process of physical changes through which a child’s body matures into an adult body.  Being a mum to a four year old who is about to start school I know I still have a few years left before the subject of puberty is discussed. I also feel that both myself and Mark will speak to our son about this and not expect it to be something in Mark’s domain just because we have a son.

How does your own upbringing differ to that of your children? 

I didn’t feel as confident approaching the idea of puberty with my parents as my kids! I think times were so different though. We talk about times when if we were naughty we got a smack, but Kenny and I would never dream of doing that to Lois or Reuben. They find our upbringing quite amusing I think, they can’t imagine a childhood without technology! I think generally things weren’t as openly talked about when we were younger. I remember feeling quite nervous and anxious about all the bodily changes that came with puberty but keeping those feelings quite hidden. I’d never want my children to feel they couldn’t talk.

What is your advice to parents who are unsure about starting conversation with their teens on the subject of puberty and sex? 

I think every teen is individual, so you have to be the judge of your own child’s existing knowledge and know what they are and aren’t ready for. I think it’s always best to put little hints out there, letting them know you are there for them if they need. I also found putting products that are great for teens like Always, Aussie shampoo and conditioner and Head & Shoulders or a new Gillette razor in the bathroom cabinets is helpful as they might not know how to ask in the first instance.

How have your twins reacted to the #TeenTalk campaign? 

Really positively! Last year I was a part of it by myself so having them by my side this year has been alovely experience. They’re not embarrassed about puberty at all and because we’ve kept such an openconversation going, I think they feel talking about it as part of the campaign is very normal! Thecampaign has just extended this conversation more for us, which can only be a good thing.

Do you think there is enough information and support available to parents struggling to connect with their teens?

This is why I think #TheTeenTalk is so great. Having been a part of it for two years now I think it is so good for helping navigate what could potentially be a very tricky time! It’s here to support teenagers and their families and I think the guide that’s available at Boots in-store and online is so supportive of  that.

How do you feel about teens spending time on social media and do you encourage a family digital detox?

We actually only allowed Lois and Reuben mobiles a few months ago. Social media is a way for them tocommunicate with their mates. I do keep an eye on them though! I want to make sure their social pages aren’t going to cause any issues and that they understand what they’re putting out there. Again though, I think this is down to open lines of communication. I hope that trusting them with these accounts means they will respect that trust.

Thank you Gabby!

 

So there you go Teen talk isn’t just for teenagers. Whether your children are still pre-tweening, tweening, teening or twentying, building and maintaining that open and honest ongoing conversation with your child is increasingly deemed by parents as an absolute priority, especially when your kids today face so many external pressures including, of course, social media.

P&G and Boots have teamed up for this campaign and created #TheTeenTalk Guide, which includes tips and advice.  Products from P&G brands such as Oral B, Tampax, Braun and Aussie will also be on offer at Boots throughout the campaign as well as Boots’ Tea Tree & Witch Hazel Collection and 48hr Protection deodorants.

 

Thank you for reading

Bella

~x~

 

Nb. A collaborative post.

The Milky Tee Company*


Last year I attended a work event and a friend of mine Lauren was wearing a tee that basically made me do a double take. Lauren was chatting to a group of friends and I joined the conversation to discover that this clever lady had designed the tee herself with the help of her mother-in-law. Not only that but it was even more of a surprise when she showed me that there were hidden zips on each side just under the armpits to allow easy access for breastfeeding or expressing.

You’ve got to admit that is a clever design! Lauren kindly sent me a tee of my choice for an honest review (she is so sweet) and she genuinely has spent a lot of time and effort into starting a business alongside being a busy mum to two beautiful young girls.

Most of you who know me will know that I don’t have a breastfeeding baby but I wanted to write about this innovative design as I know many mums who would benefit from this.  I ordered a t-shirt in small as I am a UK size 8-10 and I like the fact that they are longer in length than the average 68cm meaning they won’t ride up while feeding and can also be worn over leggings or jeans.

Even if you’re not a mum you may know someone who would love a tee like this.  They are made from 100% cotton, EKO-TEX® certified, meaning the material doesn’t contain any harmful substances and is safe for even delicate skin. In fact I wear mine because I love the design and how comfortable and soft it feels against the skin. I’ve received compliments each time I wear it and there is usually a fun surprising reaction when I explain the design. I really wish this was available when I was breastfeeding Jay as I used to struggle especially with finding tops that were practical and comfortable. This Love tee retails at £29.99 with free UK shipping over £50.  Do look out for flash sales often advertised on Instagram linked below.  I highly recommend this wonderful and fun collection of Milky Tees available in different designs. I love the slogans all which parents can relate to!

 

Recently Lauren decided to launch the same tees in black which again are gorgeous and really stand out. I can see them being a huge success. I genuinely hand on heart think this is an item of clothing worth investing in. I wear mine for the fashion aspect and I think that is totally okay.  Please do share this blog post with anyone who you think would benefit from this item of clothing. I highly recommend The Milky Tee Company, good quality clothing and I really wish Lauren continued success. Every business starts with an idea and I’ve a lot of respect for Lauren who is one of the kindest people I know wanting to help mums make life that little bit easier.

 

Connect with this fabulous Company here:

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Thank you for reading!

Love

Bella

~X~




Break Out Of Auto Pilot


It’s been a while since I posted on my blog and the saying ‘life gets in the way’ definitely has been the case as of late. I have a threenager on my hands who is both fun and not so fun in equal measures.  I’ve always been surprised at how quickly he started to talk and now he even talks back at me when things don’t go quite his way. *Sigh* .

I believe establishing routines early on in his life has helped us somewhat but parenting is still the hardest job ever in my opinion. Recently I reached a point where I felt that it was time to take the foot of the pedal when it came to my usual mummy routine and mix it up a bit.

It had been a particularly horrendous week of meltdowns in the last week of March. I don’t know why I ever thought that the terrible twos would stop on his 3rd birthday. On one occasion I had failed to bring out mini bread sticks in his favourite orange bowl and had  unintentionally let the said bread sticks mingle with other biscuits which I thought he would have appreciated. This resulted in an almighty ding dong which set the mood for the rest of the day.  We have of course like any other parent and child team experienced the public meltdowns too where I have wanted the ground to swallow me up whole. Like the time I had to abandon my full trolley in Tesco and head home with a screaming toddler. That was not a good day at all.

I remember catching a glimpse or reflection in the shop window and I looked dreadful.  As I sat in the car with my screaming toddler I remembered my long journey to motherhood and I got myself together and drove us both home.  These tantrums won’t last forever I do know that and I can’t be mad at a  little boy who is learning about the world around him. It’s “that age” people say to me “that age”.

Before I get criticised for criticising my only son I will say that I knew it wasn’t going to be a walk in the park raising a child. I do believe some children are easier than others but then everyone has their good and bad days.  Many parenting books will tell you that toddlers love routines because the predictability of knowing what comes next makes them feel safe and secure.  Parents shouldn’t be judged for creating routines that are responsive to the individual temperament of their little human(s). Do what’s right for your own baby as there is no “one size fits all” solution when it comes to implementing a routine. I have mummy friends some very laid-back, and don’t enjoy the structure of a routine.

Three years on we have become some what relaxed lately when it comes to things like bath time for instance. I sometimes bath Jay in the morning and if necessary he will have a shower with me in the evening.  It’s working out perfectly fine and hasn’t upset his sleep pattern. We tend to wake around 7am each day and on the days when he is not at pre-school I am far more willing to let things go and  be flexible with the realisation that month to month toddlers needs and habits change.  Breaking out of daily routines requires reframing your thinking taking a different path, it doesn’t mean that you’ve fallen off the wagon.

I would personally prefer Jay not to be totally dependent on predictability that he’ll fall apart the minute something changes. I hope he will be resilient like his mother and goodness knows I am resilient.  I try to add variety to the day for instance eat a picnic lunch in the living room instead of at the kitchen table or head out for walks in the early evening around our neighbourhood.

So for now I’m waking up in the morning and free-styling my day with my buddy which in turn may raise a few eyebrows but I’m okay with that. I dedicate most of my time and energy to Jay. With all my pregnancy losses I am reminded how precious our bond is.  The time I want to spend with my child is important when he is happy so am I. There have been times when this incredibly house fussy Virgo has left her many house chores so that we can sit and play with his favourite sticker books and magazines. Just because he wants me to there and then in that moment.

I loved a recent campaign that I worked on with Marks & Spencer for Make It Matter Day 1st June encouraging people to step out of their usual routine and do something different.  As I use Instagram a lot it was an opportunity for me to show my thoughts and it has been a welcome eye opener for me.  I guess it’s made me think some more about how we can all get comfortable and stuck in a rut  with the pressures of daily life.  Small changes often aren’t small at all. something like trying a new fruit or vegetable or buying a bunch of flowers for the kitchen window sill. Being in auto pilot mode isn’t that interesting and sometimes it’s good to shake things up a bit. Try it for a few days and see how you feel. To be honest I am just winging it, life,  motherhood, eye liner…everything.

The single most important roles in my life are that of being a wife and a mother. They take a lot of work, a lot of patience and strength to deal with the spinning plates and keep them all up. I keep telling myself “don’t fret Bella” parenting is a constantly evolving role. There are no perfect parents and no perfect children but there are plenty of perfect moments along the way.

If you’re a parent and reading this I’m hoping you can relate to this…

Thanks for reading

Bella

~X~


Tragic events happen everyday to good people all over the World.  A few weeks ago I watched the heartbreaking interview with Lucy Alexander on ‘This Morning’ on ITV whose son Felix sadly took his own life after years of being bullied and teased because he was not allowed to play a violent video game Call of Duty.  The World has changed so much and so quickly since my teenage school years. I genuinely feel grateful that I grew up without social media. It can bring people together and yet can cause irrevocable damage.  My school years were thankfully good and although I have experienced some bullying in my earlier years I would go to school not in fear.  Bullying then I felt was left at the school gates. Now of course it can follow young people day and night due to phones and other electronic devices. I watched this interview while young Jay sat next to me playing with his toy train set. That pure innocence will one day be gone he will be aware of the awful things that go on and will I be able to protect him. I watched the interview with a heavy heart and can’t help but worry about what my son will face as he enters his school years. I know I am not alone in thinking this.  This mother has lost her son in awful circumstances and it’s shattered their lives while the bullies go on with theirs. I admire her for the courage she shows in raising awareness.

Young people see lots of things online but are too young  to have the maturity to deal with events.  I think I was 32 when I started using Facebook and  my teenage years were about going to school, hanging out with friends sometimes heading into town going shopping , cinema and basically having a laugh. I was 18 when I first bought my own mobile brick like Nokia phone capable of holding  some text messages which you had to keep deleting to make room for more and two games I think.

As a vlogger I have see vile comments made by online trolls, it’s sad to think there are people who do this not really thinking about the consequenes of their words. There is that saying sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me… but the reality is that words can kill. If you are a parent I urge you to read this open letter.  I also think schools should be showing this interview to pupils.

Here is Lucy Alexander’s letter to bullies, parents and schools in full:

On April 27 2016 our beautiful 17-year-old son took his own life. He decided to do this because he could not see any way to be happy. His confidence and self esteem had been eroded over a long period of time by the bullying behaviour he experienced in secondary education. It began with unkindness and social isolation and over the years with the advent of social media it became cruel and overwhelming. People who had never even met Felix were abusing him over social media and he found that he was unable to make and keep friends as it was difficult to befriend the most “hated” boy in the school.
His schoolwork suffered and he found school a daily struggle. He changed schools for 6th form, something he would not contemplate before, as even though he was miserable he was also terrified of the unknown and was sure that because he felt he was so worthless, another school would make no difference.  He did make friends at his new school and the teaching staff found him to be bright, kind and caring.  He was however so badly damaged by the abuse, isolation and unkindness he had experienced that he was unable to see just how many people truly cared for him.
I write this letter not for sympathy, but because there are so many more children like Felix who are struggling and we need to wake up to the cruel world we are living in.  I am appealing to children to be kind ALWAYS and never stand by and leave bullying unreported.  Be that one person prepared to stand up to unkindness. You will never regret being a good friend.  I have been told that “everyone says things they don’t mean on social media”.
Unkindness is dismissed as “banter” and because they cannot see the effect of their words they do not believe there is one.
A quote I saw on Facebook recently resonated with me and I think is worth thinking about before posting anything on social media. Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind?  Our children need to understand that actions have consequences and that people are wounded, sometimes fatally by these so called “keyboard warriors”.  Not all children participate in online abuse, but they may be guilty of enabling others to do it.  They do this by not reporting it, by not supporting or befriending the child being abused, which just validates the bully’s behaviour.  I appeal to teachers to look out for signs that children are struggling. Poor grades or poor behaviour may signal a child crying out for help.  Listen to parents who may report problems and monitor their social interactions.  Are they sitting alone at break time or lunchtime? Are they particularly quiet or are they perhaps too loud?  I do not expect teachers to be psychologists but they have a unique overview of children’s lives and they are able to recognise a difficulty early and help signpost towards help.
Education is a vital part of change. Children need to be shown from a very early age the necessity of kindness to each other.  Incorporate these valuable lessons into the PSHE programme early in a child’s school life.
They all have smart phones at a very young age and it is vital that they are guided on how to use them responsibly and kindly.  Finally I appeal to parents. Please take an interest in what your children do online. Find out what social media platforms they are using and be sure that their use is appropriate and kind.  We don’t like to think that OUR children could be responsible for being cruel to another child, but I have been shocked by the “nice” kids who were responsible in part for Felix’s anguish.  Even if they only say something horrible once, that will not be the only person who will have said something that week.  Group chats can be a particular problem and they can disintegrate into hate fests very easily.
It is too simplistic to say “Why don’t you just block them? You don’t have to read it!” This is the way young people communicate now and many are actually are losing the ability to communicate effectively face to face.  On several occasions we removed all form of social media from Felix as it was causing so much distress, but that just isolated him further and he felt that it was a punishment and not a protection.  Look at your children’s Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, Googlechat and Facebook. Help them understand that if they are writing or posting something that they would not want you to read then they should not be doing it. Help them self-edit before they post. What are they watching online in their bedrooms? Children are witnessing a warped form of reality as violence and pornography are being “normalised” by their ease of access. We have a collective responsibility to prevent other young lives being lost to unkindness and bullying.
You may see that I have repeatedly used one word in this letter and I make no apology for this.
The word is kindness. I said this at our son’s funeral. Please be kind always, for you never know what is in someone’s heart or mind.
Our lives have been irrevocably damaged by the loss of our wonderful son; please don’t let it happen to any other family.

Family charity BullyingUK has given advice on how children and young people can help if they see someone being bullied.

  • Tell a teacher
  • Go with the person being bullied and back up what they say to the teacher
  • Tell the person being bullied that you will help them to tell their parents
  • Tell your parents what has happening and ask them to have a quiet word with your head of year
  • Agree with your friends that you will all make it clear to the person doing the bullying that you do not like what they are doing
  • Keep a diary of what you see going on so that you can give a teacher a reliable account of what has been happening
I am going to finish this post with a quote from my favourite author. The one attribute that I look for in friends.

Thanks for reading

Bella

~X~