25 Months

It’s quite fascinating to see the changes in a toddler’s development month by month. But quite frequently I go back to remembering my son as a newborn holding him during the night feeds for 2 sometimes 3 hours and waiting for him to throw up as he did pretty much with the reflux misery we endured daily. I also remember the nicer times where he would just look into my eyes with his body in a white sleep suit  and I would sit wondering what was going on inside his baby mind. Those days nights and months have rolled on and now at 25 months my Jay bird is a young boy following me everywhere and calling me “The Mummy” constantly reminding me how much I am needed and loved.
We sure have a chatterbox on our hands with lots of cute mistakes! you may have heard of the gorgeous little book Foxes Socks which I actually now know word for word.  Jay hasn’t quite mastered the word Foxes but let’s just say he does try even though it does sound like the ‘F’ word!  It’s lovely to see him try to talk to us connecting words and now that he has an understanding of certain commands like “Please can you get your shoes and coat” and “Let’s put ALL of your toys away” (well that one is work in progress) it does get slightly easier with that help. He’s a huge fan of colours, shapes and numbers and likes going through the alphabet with me. He sometimes pronounces ‘Z’ the American way so I have to shake my fist at YouTube and search for the UK Alphabet versions. As he isn’t in nursery I make sure we spend time in the day on activities that will encourage him to learn.  We go to the library twice a week and I think the weekly nursery rhyme classes there have really helped him as I can often hear him singing at home while he is playing.
Toddlers my goodness do they have an abundance of energy.  But when your son eats like a bird I really don’t know where all of his energy comes from. His relationship with food has improved slightly but he’s still not much of a foodie which is a daily struggle but I’m much better at handling it than previously. May be it will change in the years to come and he will have a huge appetite like his father (and mother) or I might be stuck on the same record! He has grown in height and is currently 90cm very much slimline.  So Speedy Jay Gonzalez certainly keeps me on my running toes and has been doing this for months now. He is fast like really fast not always good when he decides to run off in the park as I’m left with his toddler carriage and bags to catch him and he thinks we are playing. Recently he did a great escape which resulted in me falling in a muddy field highly embarrassing for “The Mummy” especially when she left the water wipes at home and had an army paint look about my face with all but one tiny tissue.  I definitely got some weird looks as I walked home. But for Jay it was all very funny.  At home daily we have music playing on from all sorts of genres.  Fridays we go into Club mode.  Dancing is something he enjoys and he fortunately for me he loves listening to the same music as mummy (Progressive Trance mainly). I can see a potential Ibiza raver in him!
I read that toddlers sleep an average of twelve hours a day at this age, give or take a few hours and are likely to have a one to two-hour nap each afternoon which is the current order of events. He doesn’t nap beyond 2.30pm and I find he tends to go to sleep by 8pm until 7am.  I say that but we still have some nights when it all goes a bit Pete Tong.  That’s where my MAC Pro Longwear concealer comes to rescue me in the morning. We haven’t yet made the transition from cot to big kid’s bed because I still feel he isn’t ready. But on another topic I have purchased a toilet trainer seat for Jay instead of the potty.  I’m wondering whether I’d be better off waiting until the weather is warmer before we commence the next stage of training as the start of much more cleaning which is inevitable.

unnamed-23Currently household appliances seem to be providing much entertainment for my 25 month old so I’ve had to think of the kiddy versions.  The children’s Dyson ball upright and a washing machine both made by Casdon are his favourite toys. I’m hoping the novelty won’t wear off but chances are they will. He has a toy iron and I might just get him an ironing board and train him up. I find his love for painting continues. Must admit I’m a bit over it now but it’s a daily activity.  He’s all smiles when the paint set comes out while the beige carpet looks up in terror.


The other day I imagined what he would look like in adult life in his 20s and 30s, would he be wearing a shirt suit and tie to work or in a profession wearing a uniform or an actor perhaps as he’s pretty good at creating dramas already. It seems a long way away but here we are in April 2016 and it only feels like yesterday when I watched the London New Year’s Eve celebrations on TV which was by far my favourite fireworks display so far!


I swear he was laughing 5 mins ago…

The terrible twos are in full swing and I am trying not to lose it when things spiral out of control. I’ve said this before but I consider myself to be a gentle and patient human being but I’ve really had to grow more patience as some days my little human acts like he’s possessed. No offence Jay!  I know he is at an age where he wants to assert his independence and doesn’t always like being told what to do.  I’ve had to be calm whilst I carry him out of places kicking and screaming. He’s  still a young little thing so I don’t like raising my voice at him, it doesn’t suit me.   I’m amazed how much he understands and I know this is all part of growing up.


One things for sure l never get really lonely these days with my 25 month old keeping me company. He chatters away and seeks to engage my attention whenever he can. He helps me with the laundry. Rearranges my cupboards and then some more, he loves his kale crisps and does an on the spot dance when he sees me rustling the crisps in a bowl. He takes my hand and holds onto my fingers tightly when we head out for our daily walk. His last two back molars are cutting through so he has wanted extra cuddles.  I do relish this moments as one day it won’t be the same.

Through a particularly difficult month on a personal level I told myself to be grateful for the life I have and the one I helped to create.

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March Forward it’s Birthday Number 2


I woke up on Saturday 5th March 2016 after a full night’s sleep which felt like a major victory and then went to see my little boy who’s name funnily enough means ‘Victorious’ in Sanskrit.

My little Jay bird is 2 years old!


I banished the hideous labour memories to the back of my mind and took a moment to remind myself how far we’d both come.  He gave me a lovely smile as I walked into his room almost as though he knew the day was a little bit more special. I was treated to a rendition of his favourite nursery rhyme ‘Twinkle Twinkle’ and we both went downstairs to have breakfast. My parents had flown in from California the day before and showered him with kisses and cuddles


This year we decided to have a much smaller birthday bash no where near 30 people like last year. As our mini space cadet is rocket mad I had decorated the house the night before.  I’ve come to realise that I really do love party decorations.  If I could I would have the house permanently adorned in party mode!


To hear Jay say “Wow look at that amazing!” as he walked into our lounge made me go all weak at the knees. The helium balloons were a hit as well as the party wall banner with the dangling planets. He probably won’t remember any of this but I wanted to do something nice for him as well as celebrate with my immediate family. My mum-in-law kindly made a rocket cake for Jay which sadly suffered some mechanical problems in transit but I still thought it looked fine, it tasted even better.


As far as dressing for the party I was torn between wearing a pretty dress but then opted for us all to match. Both Mr M and I wore T-shirts from the Samuel Oshin Space Centre in California and Master Jay was dressed in his rocket print shirt from M&S and red trousers.


When everyone had arrived sadly Jay wasn’t in the the best of moods and decided he didn’t like us all singing “Happy Birthday” to him which led to tears. Perhaps it was our singing. Perhaps he wanted to watch the NASA rocket launches on YouTube that he is so fond of.  Once Jay had simmered down he started warming up to the atmosphere and thoroughly enjoyed opening his presents.


I know I’m not alone in saying that children are sponges absorbing information around them.  I am really stunned by how much he remembers. My little newborn that caught me off guard and arrived early in 2014 is stringing words together often telling me when he wants to go outside and play and when he’s done a poo. (Let the Potty Training Summer Planning commence).


I think his generation perhaps learn quicker with the advancement of technology. In other words I have YouTube to partly thank as he is comfortable reciting shapes, colours, letters, days of the week, and numbers up to 20. May be that’s pretty normal by today’s standards I really don’t know, but it’s fascinating to me. There was certainly no way I knew those things before the age of 2. But with the good comes the not so good and sadly his eating habits is where it has been incredibly tough. The photo below is rare he actually finished his dinner on this one occasion.


Most of the time he takes no interest in food.  I’ve been told that babies that have had severe reflux struggle with certain textures. That obviously makes me sad for him and as frustrating as this situation is I hope this will change over the year and he will be swayed to try more foods other than beige coloured ones with the exception of kale and apples which have miraculously made the cut.

Being a stay at home parent is of course relentless and yes I feel the mummy guilt and wish I could do more for Jay taking him to new places and trying new activities amongst all the other daily chores. I am trying my best to show him lots of crafts and creative play too and attend classes with him, he loves painting.


He will be starting Pre-school later this year (gulp) it will be good for him and for me too.  He is lucky to have immense love from all of his grandparents, whom he adores being with and is a kind boy making us laugh with the silly things he says and does.  Thank goodness he loves animals and is very gentle with them.





Whether Mr M and I we will be blessed with another Rainbow baby remains to be seen which is why we are making the most of the moments we have with Jay celebrating his milestones.  I’m just so glad Jay chose me to be his:

‘The Mummy”

and that’s good enough for me.

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Baby to Big Kid – 20 Months


I haven’t done an update post regarding my young human for a while and admittedly finding time appears to be much more of an issue now as I deal with an active toddler who doesn’t want to sit still and insists we do everything his way.  I do appear to be living in MeltDown Central.  What was I expecting?


Jay has been exhibiting behavior associated with the “terrible twos” from at least 17 months old together with teething is just a crazy combo (Lord help me). I know this is not uncommon and but I realise I need to  focus on helping  him learn how to develop a bigger vocabulary that will make it easier to communicate with me and others especially as he is not at nursery. He is a loud boy for sure total oppostite to his mother and his vocabulary is really good (I would say that I know) but he is talking so much more in the past month and people have commented on how much he understands already. Words like red, blue, orange, oval, square, bubble, heart, round, bye, baby, eight, six, triangle, open door, one, door, up, apple, cheese, purple, fish (or sheesh) as he calls them.  When he calls me “mumma” it melts my heart.  He loves saying “daddy” more.  We go to classes at the library and playgroups and outings at the park as well as his weekly B&Q lighting and garden visits. Swimming is still his favourite. Propeller legs Jay has a natural affinity for water that’s for sure.

This electronic gadget generation of ultra youngsters are quite something I think. How he is able to navigate around the iPad and iPhone with ease is beyond me. I watch as he drags videos across the screen scrolling up and down the list looking for his next favourite.

Current YouTube Playlist consisting of :

Great British Railway Journeys

Everybody Loves Raymond

Wanda and the Alien

BollyWood movie clips and songs


In the Night Garden

Paw Patrol

Nasa Rocket launches

Strictly Come Dancing

Sooty and Sweep

Any Sir David Attenborough series

The Travelodge advert

Top Gear

Radio 1 Live Lounge on Iplayer

Keira Knightly seems to catch his eye on the Channel advert which is fine as it’s my signature scent of choice.

Peppa Pig in Polish

The Wheels on the Bus in Spanish


As exhausting as my weeks can be I am really pleased with his development so far and he is incredibly inquisitive and wants to know how things work. The focused concentration he displays sometimes is mind boggling! I wonder what he’s thinking.  I love his cute little voice and how he tries to copy us. He does make us laugh which makes parenthood worthwhile.  He enjoys helping me around the house with chores. He loves using the Bissell Sweeper which I strongly recommend for every household. He brushes my hair and does enjoy playing with my makeup bag and contents but that’s the only way to distract him while I change his nappies and change his clothes. There was an incident when he broke my new Mac lipstick  but he was forgiven.  There was an incident when he nearly tore up a £20 note and we had words.  There is this matter of changing his daily garments that is an ongoing battle. I do feel like I’m having a scrap with an octopus most days plus we have an 11.5 hour flight next month to contend with… that’ll be fun.


The most recent development is that he now he says “poo” when he has made a deposit whether it be pee or poo in his nappy and pats his bum while looking at me (nice).  Kind of like that Asda advert .  It might not be the most glamourous of milestones but it makes me happy. I still feel he isn’t completely ready for toilet training but I’m going to try and work on this with him over the next month and see how things go.


He currently stands at 84cm tall and weighs 11.3kg or  approx 25lbs for the Imperial users like me. My slimline tinker doesn’t have a huge appetite and is more of a grazer. This has been my biggest headache trying to get him to take an interest in food. I still stick to giving him three meals a day and snacks  as well as three bottles of milk a day breakfast  at lunch and bedtime.  Recently he’s been loving brown rice and salmon (get him).  He is fond of food with aromatic spices which is handy as he’s half Indian.



Sleep is something I crave. Jay seems to have energy at 3-4am and wants to play despite having a 1-2 hour nap late morning. Some nights he sleeps through and other nights result in me wearing industrial strength concealer the next day. Dear God please do not stop making Mac Pro-wear.


But now I must get back to my sleep raider who appears to have fallen out with his football.

I love him.

Happy 20 Months Birthday Jay.


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Walk This Way!


Finally after months of wondering when it would happen the Jaybird has started taking his own steps exactly on the day he turned 16 months old and now there’s no stopping him! Granted he is still wobbly and walks like a little robot (there’s a clip of him on my Instagram account doing a cute Frankenstein) but it’s blown Mr M and I away as we watch him toddle in and out of rooms,  his face lighting up which each step.

This is a massive deal for us as a family as Jay actively refused to crawl so it’s been backaches galore for me mainly.   He’s moving so fast which is great  but also incredibly scary when he attempts to dash across the room while I follow behind trying to keep up.  House proofing is back on the agenda at Along Came Jay HQ as I notice more and more items that I need to move or corners I need to cover.

The time has also come for his first pair of fitted shoes and slippers. I had my first pair of shoes from Clarks when I started walking at 10 months old and now Jay has his.  So another milestone is reached and I can’t help but feel emotional as I watch this little human that I grew in my tummy do his own thing…well sort of.


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First Haircut


Jay graduated from babyhood with his first haircut Tuesday 16th March and whilst I love watching him growing up, this week in particular I have been a tad emotional in noticing that he is becoming an independent toddler wanting to do things himself.

Our lovely neighbour Damien who just happens to be a fab hairdresser kindly treated Jay in the comfort of our own home and there were no falling tears….just little snippets of hair.


A couple of things happened before Jay had his new hair do. For starters ‘he’ often gets mistaken for a little ‘she’ and some days he would wake up with some funky 80’s style mohawk which actually looked cool but wasn’t practical.


Once his hair started to creep close to his eyes the decision was made to I did try a mini role play hair salon visit by popping him in a chair and wrapping a small blanket around his shoulders using my fingers to mimic the experience and he didn’t seem to mind so in the morning after Jay’s nap and feed, Damien came over and was really lovely and relaxed speaking to Jay which helped.


Jay sat relatively still but I had some distractions ready just in case. I now have a zip lock bag with hair from his first haircut which I will place in his time capsule which I started putting together on his birthday.

Do you remember your first haircut? not many do and I certainly didn’t but then who can blame me after all I was only 5 months old and had a full mop of hair. My mum tells me that she took me to the salon where I had my hair cut to the sounds of Staying Alive which had just been released playing on the radio in 1977 and to this day we are still in touch with the same hairdresser Tina.

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