Finding Love Later in Life



I recently celebrated 7 years of marriage to the man I’ve known for nearly 9 years. I often get asked how Mr M and I met. Well towards the end of 2008 I went on what seemed like my millionth date and thankfully it was to be my last one. The rest as they say is history.  I would have never have thought that a profile uploaded online would lead me to my now husband whom I met on a very popular dating website when I was 32 years old.  Millions of people in the UK are registered for online dating and one in five relationships now start online. It’s the third most popular way to meet someone after pubs and through friends.  But dating isn’t the sole preserve of the young and the restless as many people find themselves back in the game later in life. So how late is too late to start dating in the modern World?

Going on a first date can be daunting. That doesn’t change just because you get older. Just like real world dating, the rules of online dating are rarely set in stone.  I do have friends in their 50s who are currently on dating websites but are not keen to make this known as they feel there is still a  stigma attached to e-dating.  I personally don’t think this is the case as there are more and more specialist sites around like the following for example.

Dating can be a fun, exhilarating and ultimately a life-changing experience.  Simply take each experience for what it actually is which is meeting a new person.  Maybe you’ll learn something about your date, or even yourself, that might help you in life. A few pointers which I  felt were important when I began my journey into e-dating were things like a smiling profile photo which were always more noticeable and welcoming. Honesty is key in creating profiles as there are people who may wish to embellish certain aspects of their lives to seem more attractive to others. The truth does come out so always best to be upfront!  The element of mystery is good (within reason) and not everything needs to be disclosed on the first date.  While it may sound like a cliché, you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else.  Finding a partner will not create happiness.  You first need to believe in your own happiness and confidence.

I personally think it is neither foolish nor undignified to be in love at any age. Love actually helps us live longer! It brings us out of our shell. The part of us that wants to connect with someone else is always alive within us. It doesn’t burn out or fade away. The more we develop as individuals and discover new aspects of ourselves, the better able we are to be close to someone else. Because of this, I truly believe it’s never too late to fall in love.

Thanks for reading

Bella

~X~

 *This post is a collaboration with WeLoveDates.com