Positive Action for Mind and Body

I think I can still get away with wishing Happy New Year to all reading this! I’ve been treading lightly into the month of January.  I’m hoping 2017 has started off well for you and yours. 2016 was not a fine vintage in my life scape but that was then and this is now. For those that don’t know last year I experienced personal trauma and heartache in losing multiple babies, a grief that I can’t really put into words other than the most harrowing experience I have been through to date. I am determined to look after myself better this year and when stress inevitably rears its head I have been using techniques to quash it in its tracks. One example is this mindful exercise floating away a red balloon.

  • Find a quiet space, sit comfortably and imagine a red balloon.
  • Slowly inhale
  • Slowly exhale, filling the balloon with thoughts of stress and tension, then release it into the sky.
  • Repeat for until you feel calm.

I suppose you can only make changes (even the small ones) if you really want to. I say this because last month you could have placed all the positive thinking books in this World right in front of me but I wasn’t interested I just felt ill and sad and nothing seemed to help. It was a blip on a grand scale realising that even those that live and breathe positivity can fall down and find it hard to get back up again. Resilience is something I know I do possess and the turning point started 1st January 2017 when I began to feel physically better recovering from a chest and cold virus which had knocked me sideways for the whole month of December whilst looking after a poorly toddler. Bad luck runs out eventually!

A few years ago I read a book called Chicken Soup for the Soul.  This is one book I think everyone should read.  All about uplifting stories that  show strength and courage in the hardest of times.  Most people I have spoken to don’t really do ‘New Year Resolutions’ it’s easy to say we will do more of this or less of that but the reality is life is busy and things fall off the radar even with the best of intentions. I would like in essence to feel good time every minute of the day and being healthy and happy  are my main goals in life ALWAYS.  This post is about my little changes and how they are helping me.  When you are feeling low for whatever reason it’s hard to sometimes just ‘snap out of it’. I wallowed a bit in self-pity not interested in feeling better not excited by anything and all I was doing was focusing on caring for Jay making sure he was clean, warm, fed and loved… but I was not taking care of  me…that is until now I have started putting a plan into action.



I came to realise last month that I needed to seek help to deal with the losses I had been through. I have contacted The Miscarriage Association, Tommy’s and Sands all incredible charities that I support.  I have been lucky to have support from family and friends but I fell into what I can only describe as a void with no one to pull me out.  I have only just started the grieving process  but I am of sound mind to know that there is nothing to be ashamed of. We are all dealt cards in life some are easier than others.   I’ve had to visit some dark places but the idea is that I want to let go of these feelings of sadness except that you can’t always control what happens to you but it’s what you do after that really matters. Some people find it easier to cope with things better than others but this sentence which I read in the book has really stuck with me.

 ‘Change your thoughts and you change your World’


Keep a Gratitude Journal

A common method to develop the practice of gratitude is to keep a gratitude  journal. The idea consists of writing down every day a list of three to ten things for which you are grateful; you can do this first thing in the morning or before going to bed at night. Another exercise you can try is to write a gratitude letter to a person who has made a positive influence in your life but whom you have not properly thanked. Some experts suggest that you set up a meeting with this person and read the letter to them face to face I think I would have a lot of meetings in that case!  Despite my difficulties last year looking back I wonder if I had kept a journal in 2016 would it have helped me deal with things better?  hard to say but I guess I am now much more aware of the positive things in my life.  Once you become oriented toward looking for things to be grateful for  you begin to appreciate simple pleasures those little things that you previously took for granted. I know when I get messages from my readers or YouTube Channel Viewers it means a lot to me and I feel happy that people take time out of their lives to read what I have to say or watch a video I made.



If the eyes are the windows to the soul, as the old saying goes, then the windows are the soul of our house.  Every weekend I open all windows and doors to let air in for 5-10 mins yes it’s freezing in January but there is definitely a sense of a cool freshness which is strangely satisfying.   I view the home as an extension of your body and spirit. Some people burn sage to absorb the extra emotional vibrations and I burn candles to make my living space feel like a sanctuary that I feel comfortable in. I believe you have to love where you live make it your home.

Weekly Meal Planner/ Cook more meals

I have been cooking every single night of January so far, no ready meals or packet sauces and I am really enjoying eating vegetables and aiming to get my 5 a day although Mr M reckons it’s now ‘7 a day’.  In 1990, the World Health Organisation (WHO) introduced the concept of ‘5 a day’.  Along with the UK’s Committee on Medical Aspects of Food and Nutrition (COMA), they set the recommendation that we should be consuming 400g of a variety of fruits and vegetables daily.  I’ve also discovered that 1 heaped tablespoon of tomato puree counts towards this quota! This was then adopted by the UK government, and it is now widely recognised  that fruit and veg should make up a third of our daily food consumption. How many of us actually reach this target. I have scoured my many recipes books and have listed a weekly meal plan to try and get more veg into our meals  I want to nourish my body better with good stuff and enjoy the treats too so there is a balance. I like one pot or tray bake style recipes which are quick and easy to do and a great way to eat more veg. Some of you may know I get to work with Iceland as part of my vlogging role with Channel Mum and have embraced the power of frozen.  We rarely throw food away now as I don’t like waste and spend sensibly on good produce.

Drink turmeric water

The health benefits of drinking turmeric water each morning are mostly due to its antioxidant, anti-inflammatory, and antibacterial properties. This spice is popular in most curries but have you tried giving this tonic a go. I’ve read it’s a wonder beverage and one I am prepare to drink more of,  just mix a quarter or half teaspoon of turmeric with some warm water in a glass and add lemon juice if you prefer. I actually don’t mind the taste although it’s a face puller if you haven’t had it before.


Healthy Mind

My Yes Mum positive affirmation cards get used daily I keep them where I can see them and repeat the words every now and then throughout the day.  Words are powerful and make an impression  even though we may not realise it. Sometimes I catch myself picturing the cards in my head. If you or anyone needs a boost I definitely recommend these.

Puzzles and Adult Colouring in books

I usually walk past the books and magazine stands in stores but the other day I found myself purchasing a word search puzzle book.  I complete a word search puzzle a day.  I’m not clever enough for Sudoku puzzles, my mum on the other hand surprises me with her ability to conquer the killer ones..I don’t know how she does it.   I think it definitely helps exercise this organ which we all have called the brain.  Colour Yourself Calm Mandalas by Paul Heussenstamm  is a mindfulness colouring book. The very act of colouring is calming, a  soothing activity feels so similar to painting my nails which incidentally I’ve managed to grow naturally without anymore trips to the Nail Salon for fake nails! The word “mandala” is from the classical Indian language of Sanskrit. Loosely translated to mean “circle,” a mandala represents wholeness. This is another mindfulness exercise which can help reduce stress levels.

Limit sugar intake

Sugar is a killer says my 75 year old dad and Diabetes does in fact scare me. There isn’t a history of diabetes in our family and yet I did have gestational diabetes while I was pregnant which threw me into a wave of panic but in some ways it was a good wake up call. I am much better at managing my  sugar intake now.  I study product labels perhaps a bit too much  but if I feel it’s going to do more bad than good I won’t buy it. The basic rule I work by is that if there is more than 10g of sugar in 100g of the product I won’t eat it.  I made the mistake of eating high sugar fruits during pregnancy which I think contributed to my condition then but we all have different insulin levels and it’s important to really be aware of  the hidden sugar. I have also been caught out by some low fat products which actually have a lot of sugar. Best to take a moment and check the labels of the food you love eating just so that you’re aware.

Go to bed at the same time each night

Early to bed early to rise another saying that my dad thinks is good practice. Lack of sleep has been linked to a myriad of problems.  I try and stick to 9.30pm even at the weekends. I set a daily alarm on my phone 8.30pm to remind me to start finishing up tasks and shut down the body shop. That way come 9.30pm I am physically in bed. I used to look at social media before bed but I am finding I sleep better when I am not looking at my phone screen. I definitely feel better and don’t yawn in the mornings like I used to with the sleepy eye look through not getting enough sleep. There are exceptions because children like to wake up and in turn wake you up. Thankfully the little man has been fine sleeping through the night without any fuss although I suspect it’ll change at some stage.

Donate Blood

I have been a blood donor for 8 years now and feel strongly about helping others especially if it can help save a life. I know not everyone can donate blood which is a real shame as there is always a shortage of blood.  I love the chats with strangers after the donation process when you get a cup of squash or a tea and choice of biscuits. This is a little post I wrote a while ago on the very subject.

 Collagen shots

So this is a bit of an experiment and no idea if I will still end up looking like a shrivelled up prune in my later years. I won’t be having plastic surgery that’s for sure. I drink this apparent elixir of youth each morning with the primary aim of improving skin tone.  I’m not keen on the taste  but I am prepared to give it a go and see if it will help slow down the ageing process. Forty isn’t old in the grand scheme of things but if I can help my skin with the help it needs especially in the winter months then why not.


Treat yourself to something new each month

In my days Pre-Motherhood I was a stickler for spending a lot of money on makeup and candles. So nothing much has changed then.  But I definitely don’t buy things for myself as much as I used to that’s for sure.  Most purchases I make revolve around Jay.  While I am unable to walk past a department makeup counter without parting with my earned pennies I thought I would remind myself  that it is okay to buy things for yourself with the caveat that you only buy if you  can afford to and it won’t stress you out later.

Charlotte Tilbury Lipstick Kidman’s Kiss

Charlotte Tilbury Lip Gloss Port-to loo girl

Molton Brown Ambrusca Cleansing Shower oil which leaves the skin on your body feeling super soft and smelling wonderful.

Play with Jay

Life at the moment is making sure I have quality time with my little boy and getting to play with him.  I am aware that one day he will be doing his own thing and after everything I have been through to become a mother, these years are short and I will be as silly as I can with him. He is angelic and not so angelic in equal measures as he approaches the threenager years. I tell him that I love him everyday but it’s even better when he says it to me. I do feel it’s important to tell the people we care about how special they are to us. Why leave it till it’s too late.

Digital detox phone and electronic devices

I know quite a few people who are ditching their Social Media profiles whether it be Instagram, Facebook, Twitter.  I have been using it less as I do think it is an addiction of modern times.   Social media isn’t necessarily think a bad thing but there is a time and place for everything. I’m so glad I grew up without social media when people actively arranged to meet in person and talk  but I do feel that is now lost in many ways and we chat behind screens.  My writing is awful, and yet I love receiving letters from two wonderful friends of mine called Geoff and Beryl in their late eighties with the most wonderful writing.  I feel a little embarrassed sending letters with my writing but there is something special about putting pen to paper.  I used to write to my brother when he first moved to the States.  These days you are only a few feet away from someone using their phone. I know Mr M isn’t a fan of social media. I use it as part of my job and of course its nice to be able to connect with people but I am enjoying time away from the phone too.

So there you go an extensive list you could say but I am trying to make a conscious effort, I also know there are bound to be times when things don’t go to plan but accept that’s part of life’s tribulations and it’s okay not to be perfect.  Please let me know what things you are also trying.

Try something new this month whether it’s eating a vegetable you’ve never tried before or calling someone you’ve not spoken to for ages.  Anything but something.


Wishing you all a peaceful and mindful New Year!




Personalised Christmas Gifts with Snapfish*


‘Tis the season to be jolly and in case you didn’t know already I’m a huge fan of personalised Christmas and photo gifts. I’ve teamed up with one of my favourites Snapfish  for some gift ideas to get those stockings filled with treats. I love gifts that can be given that personal touch probably more so since becoming a parent as let’s face it we take loads of photos of our every day moments with children. We all have our favourite snaps that are often left on our mobiles and laptops and I have always been a fan of personalised gifts to create something unique, and something unforgettable.

When those big occasions come up we don’t want to be the ones throwing down some gift that we got at the last minute, without giving any thought to who it’s for. I know how nice it is to receive a gift that touches your heart and makes you happy every time you look at it. If you haven’t ordered personalised gifts before take a look at the ones on offer at Snapfish. There is quite a bit to choose from and with Christmas so close there is still time to get creating!


Christmas trees are incredibly special and part of the magic of the festive season is decorating with ornaments that become keepsakes. Little photo pieces  like this are wonderful reminders of the special people in your life.

Photo Mug


Personalised mugs are useful gifts as they’re likely to be used daily and will brighten up any tea or coffee break. I love how mug-nificent they are! (that’s awful I know). We all drink from mugs right? so a gift you know that will be used and won’t be sitting around collecting dust.

Wall Calendars



I enjoyed creating this photo kitchen calendar perfect as a stocking filler gift. I have to say these days I sometimes forget what day it is so a nice photo reminder is perfect to keep on track and hopefully remind you of those all important dates.

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Most people I know own a mobile phone these days, I have seen some really wonderful cases out and about. Keeping photo memories close and quite literally in your hand.

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*Thank you Snapfish for the credit to help facilitate this review. My opinions are 100% honest and my own.

Vileda Windomatic Review


I am a bit of a control freak when it comes to household chores verging on the obsessive compulsive. I don’t have a cleaner (yet) because in a weird sort of way I find cleaning therapeutic a bit like blogging. My mum is obsessed with cleaning so she’s obviously passed some gene onto me.  Thanks mum. It was therefore a nice surprise to be asked if I wanted to try out the Vileda Windowmatic and it couldn’t have arrived at a better time as funnily enough I had been thinking about tackling our grimy panes with a nifty gadget. The first thing to say is that it is Good Housekeeping Institute approved so that was encouraging.


Washing windows is generally a job that most people don’t like to bother with, because you have to battle with dirt, dripping water, wads of kitchen towel or newspaper, and annoying streaks. There are many techniques and methods that you can use to clean windows, and it can be difficult to know which one is the most effective. However, when in doubt, it’s always a good idea to look at how the professional window cleaners do it. The quick and efficient method they use involves a bucket of cleaning solution, a cloth/sponge, and a squeegee. On opening the box I found the instructions simple to follow, my only concern was the writing is very small as the instructions are in a number of different languages. The next thing I did was charge the battery for 6 hours.


The on off switch located on the handle of the Windowmatic only needs the lightest touch to activate and a few times I have caught it and turned the item off but once you are used to this you hold the handle away from it. The finish is smear free and has a nice shine almost all the liquid is removed.



The windomatic is easy to clean and empty, the head moves so it is not rigid so making it easy to change direction when going up and down the glass.  The battery is adequate and allows lots of windows to be cleaned in one go.  It’s great for tackling window condensation problems especially in the bathroom and this product is great for clearing them quickly. I felt having an extra smaller blade attachment would have be handy for smaller areas as we have a few windows with smaller sections but that’s a minor negative.




The flexible head comes into play when applying pressure to clean the windows so you can remove water and dirt easily. I think the water reservoir could perhaps be little bit bigger however this is easily rectified by having a bucket to hand.  The Vileda Windomatic is priced at £49.99 which I think is fairly reasonable as it does a super job and best in class against other popular Window Vacs.

“If eyes are the windows to our souls, 
then windows are the eyes into the soul of a house.”
Rose Tarlow

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*I was sent the product in exchange for a review. All opinions are my own.

The Power of Affirmations


The first year of motherhood is just so ridiculously difficult as any mum will tell you.  This morning I looked at myself in the mirror with my every growing dark circles staring back at me that have clearly gone beyond the point of no return.  I often have flashbacks to my early thirties the pre-baby days when I had time to apply face masks and take long soaks in the bath, co-ordinate outfits not to mention the toilet breaks without an audience.



You get the gist some weeks are tougher than others and it’s hard work that requires well honed management skills, only you don’t get paid for it. It’s “rewarding” people say and there is of course truth in that but I wish we could also be quite honest in saying that some days we just want to run away and drink champagne all day.


Nearly three years on I believe the best gift you can give to everyone around you (especially your children and your other half if you have one) is the gift of caring for yourself. Easier said than done of course but the reality of motherhood is that you can only share as much love and nurturing as you yourself are receiving.  It is essential that all mothers ask for help and support on a regular basis in order to replenish themselves and to build up their reserves of energy. I have only just got to the point where I have started to do that.



I write this post not to criticise my 32 months old son because after all he is the reason I love getting up in the mornings and the middle of the night. I am very lucky he is here. Whether you’re a young or an older mum like me watching our little people grow up in front of our very eyes is a privilege. I write this post for the all the hardworking caring parents out there who do their very best daily to raise their mini humans and deserve praise, keep up the good work people and banish those motherhood guilt feelings that have a habit  of creeping up on us.


At the beginning of this year I wrote about how I started my day reading statements to help my mood. Affirmations are simple, clear and direct declarations that we say to ourselves in order to achieve change in different areas of life. Developing a powerful positive mindset can be hard when you are an exhausted parent. For example the last two weeks have been intense I have looked after my son who has been  poorly and then I sure enough succumbed to the lurgy which meant it was a code red disaster how on earth was I going to cope with everything but of course I did.  It’s all experience ultimately but can’t say I learnt anything new.

Then a nice thing happened.  A beautiful friend of mine called Stacey a fellow Channel Mum Vlogger sent me a gift totally out of the blue on a day when I also received a £55 parking ticket. In the box were these brilliant Yes Mum cards designed by Hollie De Cruz retailing at £10.50.  I was so impressed hence why I’m writing this to urge any parent to get a set or to treat someone to them. There are plenty of other options available too depending on the person and their situation. I do suffer from post natal anxiety and I wrote a blog post called New Year Goals I referred to how carefully constructed statements “rewire” our brains to break negative thought patterns.  Why bother with doing this you may ask the process may seem silly if you’re new to it but the idea is to push negativity and self-doubt away and affirm to ourselves that things are good even if we don’t necessarily feel that way at the time.

If you are reading this and feel like you are in a bit of a lull and need to re-energise your mental state of mind I urge you to try these. I take a card each morning and place it where I will keep seeing it throughout the day. Life isn’t always plain sailing as we know and even the most positive minded people will need a boost from time to time.  I am well aware that there will be sceptics who say this is all mumbo jumbo and everyone is entitled to their opinions of course. This is a small exercise in my view that doesn’t hurt anyone and worth trying, even for me?….pretty please?

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Have you tried Pitapat?


I hadn’t quite prepared myself for the amount of stuff accumulated when you become a parent, and day to day I am forever picking up toys and books and trying to make the place look decent for those unexpected visitors that actually don’t visit. I do however feel that all items purchased still need to be treated with respect even when they are no longer being used. I am pretty good at culling Jay’s toys that are no longer shown any interest or he’s outgrown.  Recently I came across a wonderful Free App called Pitapat which is great for listing unwanted items you want to sell or searching for items you want to buy all within easy reach of your home.

I do donate a fair bit to the local Charity shops but sometimes I feel like some things are worth selling and I like how this App lets you purchase items closer to home rather having to pay an obscene amount for postage.  I registered with my email and created a password and within seconds I was able to start using the App which is super easy to use.

Listing things may seem like a chore but with only a few details like a photo, description and £price it’s a matter of a minute or two.  The added bonus of it being a localised market place gives it a nice community feel in being able to help people nearby and remember it’s getting to that time of the year when costs start mounting so you might just want to pocket some cash or treat the little humans in your life!

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